I’ve been having memories in the last couple of days of when I used to work outside the home after The B Man was born. Perhaps because I have another little baby and can’t even imagine having to leave her soon…
I went for my six week post-op check up at the doctor on Monday and started chatting with a young lady in the waiting room (not too different than myself 6 years ago) who was pregnant with her first child and there to confirm said pregnancy.
Our conversation made me think of how I, after three months of being sprayed with poop and pee and spending many a day looking into my baby boy’s blue eyes, had to go back to the office. She said she would do the same, especially since she makes more money than her husband.
It wasn’t easy for me to go back but it was best for our family at the time. It was actually best for ME at the time and probably my little baby too. I was not in the right mind set back then to stay home. I knew it and so did Tim.
People change and times change. Both happened with me. And now, here I am. And yes, there are days that I would trade with those who choose (and HAVE to) work a paying job. But most days I wouldn’t – not for the world.
My friend Erin wrote this post and it got me thinking even more… go check it out. She said it better than I can.
This photo was taken back in 2004 one morning before dropping my baby at his in-home day care and making the commute to “work”…
Some days I wish I had spent ALL of those early days with him. But again, it had to be the way it was then but I thank God it’s the way it is now…
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Alicia says
I know how you feel! I worked for a couple of years when my two oldest were babies. I knew that that’s what we had to do at the time. I’m so grateful that I can stay at home now.
Muthering Heights says
I could NEVER imagine leaving my kids. I feel so blessed because I never had to!
BoufMom9 says
What a sweet and thoughtful post! I could never imagine going back to work anymore. i love being home with the kids now too much 🙂
Happy WW!
Life with Kaishon says
I think that Mama’s that drop their kids off and go to work are super heroes! I mean, HOLY COW, look how much they have to accomplish! Working outside the home is insane and then imagine coming home and having to do all of the inside the house stuff too. ICK! I do have a job but my ‘baby’ is 9 so I don’t think it really counts any more : ) Plus I get to work from home many days and for that I am truly thankful!
Janie at Sounding Forth says
I love this picture….and I love that you did what you had to do…
blueviolet says
It all put you in the place you are now! What a cute little face. 🙂
Brittany says
what a beautiful photo! 🙂
Midwest Mommy says
We were very fortunate and cut corners here and there and I never had to go back to work. We made the decision on the spur on a moment 3 weeks before school was to start. I miss it but I also can’t imagine what it is like. A moms job is hard!
MOMMY-MOMO says
i’m a lucky girl to be able to stay at home. i know i’m blessed. Went to college and got a degree that i havent used yet and have no regrets. i love it!
Kami's Khlopchyk says
I cannot imagine going back after only 3 months! But you all do it and I am amazed. Here in Canada we get a year of maternity leave – and many places top up the salary so it’s almost equivalent to when you are working.
I don’t regret giving up my out of home job either. How could we?
🙂
Michelle says
When I had my first daughter I went into to motherhood with the feeling that there was no way that I would ever be a SAHM.
Sheesh, I had a college education after all and was being groomed to take over the family business.
After 6 months of handing my daughter over to my mom for 5 hours a day I quit……and never went back.
That is why I know never say never!
Jen says
I feel like I get the best of both worlds. I work 2 days a week and the rest, I get to be home with kids. It has totally saved my sanity at times.
Stacy (the Random Cool Chick) says
Awwww! I love that picture – and that you’re exactly where you need to be today, just like you were back then, too. 😉
Susie says
What a great memory to share!
Haley says
This is a fabulous post! you look lovely in that photo too!
Lisa @ Crazy Adventures in Parenting says
That is a BEAUTIFUL picture of you two!
Crooked Eyebrow says
I stayed home for a year with my first and I was very ready to go back to work. Now with baby eden I have to go back to work and I am dreading that day come january 11th.
*great post*
Heather of the EO says
I’ve had pretty much the same experience. I went back to work when Miles was a baby and it was the right thing for us then. Now, I’m able to stay home and COMMEND working moms. They are rock stars. And we’re rock stars too.
Love the photo!
Lady Mama says
I believe we do what’s right at the time – you did what was best for you and your family. I’m having a hard time imagining what it might be like to return to work, having not been in an office for almost three years.
That’s a lovely picture of you and your son by the way!
angie says
We all have to do what’s best in our circumstances, and this picture proves that it was the best choice. 🙂
Chelle says
Anytime I think I wish I had {insert newer clothes, shopping sprees, etc} I remind myself how blessed I am to stay home with my girls. I, like you, would never change it.
PS–Six weeks?! Already?!
Reluctant Housewife says
Oh my gosh… look at the big eyes! What a cutie.
I imagine it must be hard to go back to work so soon. In Canada we get 1 year for maternity leave (at a reduced salary, but still)… Yay Canada. Ahem.
Seriously, the eyes! so big & blue. Aw!
Emily says
What a great reflective post. Isn’t it interesting to look back and see how kids have changed you? At least I feel like they’ve changed me! 🙂