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My Chest is Heavy (Unfortunatley no, not like that!)

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I don’t “vent” on here very often. It’s just not what I am about. But today. I need to vent.

Yesterday morning I yelled at The B Man. We all yell on occasion, right? But let me back up a little. …

We had storms on Monday night and Tim is gone AGAIN. The B Man wanted to sleep with me due to the fact that he was freaked out by the thunder and instead he fell asleep on the sofa and I left him there until almost 10 p.m. when I then took him to his bed.

On Tuesday night he asked if he could sleep in my bed because he was “scared” (just a general term he likes to use to pull on my heart strings) and he felt like he’d gotten cheated the night before since he passed out with no debate.
So I capitulated. Bad idea. I slept horribly. I don’t know why. Maybe I worried about him waking up or having an accident in my bed. Whatever it was, it DIDN’T work.

So today, I was GRUM-PY! And this morning The B Man would NOT LISTEN and after the 3rd time of telling him to get his shoes on so I could load the kids in the car for the Wednesday morning drop-off marathon, I blew a fuse. In a major way. He cried. I felt guilty. Classic.
Me tired + him not listening = fuse blowage. Lovely.

Part of it too is that it’s just getting harder and harder to have Tim gone every other week. And… there is no end in sight. He will be home for 2 weeks straight because of Thanksgiving so I guess I should be THANKFUL for that…and I am. But still, it’s really hard not to have him here some days. And on the days he’s gone sometimes I just want someone else to bathe them or wipe a face. Or, I just want to be able to go to Target at 8 p.m. if I “need” to.

There are a million other things I need to blog about right now but I needed to get this off my chest.

And also…. can an 18-month old hit the “terrible two’s” early because that may be going on here, (Little G is 18 months on Saturday…) which only adds to my “mood.”

So, is there anything you need to vent about? If so, I’m here to listen…

P.S. Despite it all, they’re still cute. Check it.

elaine

Comments

  1. Yes ma’am…I think most of us have these days…I understand it completely!!

    The hubby being gone part, the desire for someone else to change a stinkin’ diaper part, or just field the million questions that are thrown at me in a day! Whew!

    You are a fantastic mother…you need to make sure you get some good rest…and let go of the guilt. Only good mommies feel guilty about anything…but Praise God that each day brings a clean slate!! 🙂

    Praying that you have a better day…

    (((HUGS)))
    Tina

  2. Like 2 hours ago I could of vented about how angry I’ve been at myself for losing my wedding ring and being a careless idiot… but I just found it Lainey! I FOUND IT!!!!

    Sorry you had a crumby day,I can’t imagine going at it alone even if it is every other week… Oh and as for the heavy chest… trust me…. you don’t want that.

    Happy tomorrow! Hugs.

  3. We definitely all have days like that. And the ones who say they don’t are lying! 😉

    I can’t imagine how tough it must be to have your hubby away so much, but you’re doing a great job. You can only do your best. Even Moms get tired and need a break, so don’t beat yourself up about feeling strung out and needing to vent.

    And to answer your question about the terrible 2’s … um, Tyler started them at 14 months! Which was a huge shock to the system as Ethan never had them at all, not even when he was 3 (or 4 or 5 or 6). Tyler is his complete opposite! But we got through it, and you will too (if that is, in fact, what Little G is doing. He may just be tired today too).

    ((Hugs)) and hang in there!

  4. Oh I completely understand, if Mema was closer I ‘d run over and mind the boys while you went to Target, as long as you brought back some coffee. Hope today is better.

  5. I am with you!! It is extremly hard when hubby is away so much. Yesterday I heard ‘mommy’ probably 500 times seriously! I became my mom and said “I’m going to change my name.” I need Mark to be home so they start calling for him to watch, get another snack, get a drink, play candyland for the hundredth time. Hang in there the week is almost over 🙂

  7. I have mornings like that more often than I care to admit. It’s hard to have your husband away so much. Hubby worked away for the summer in 2007 and it was hard. I so admire single parents! You’re doing a great job. Some days we just need a hug. (((HUG))) Your boys are so cute! I love the matching jammies.

  8. I think you are doing an amazing job! We all have bad mornings, lack of sleep will do that to you.

    Hang in there, he will be home soon. Then you can take a break and go for a massage!

  9. You. are. not. alone.
    I am right there with you.
    Really.
    I just posted about my terrible, horrible, no good morning.
    Hope today is better and you get some much needed rest tonight!

  10. They are still really adorable! I can’t imagine having to go it alone every other week. HB used to work a lot and we don’t even have any kids and it was hard (he basically was never home while I was awake).

  11. (((hugs))) sweetie. I totally understand blowing the fuse thing. It happens to the best of us 🙁

    I do love that picture! Are they wearing their new footie pj’s? So adorable!!

  12. Hey, we all deserve some time to vent every once in a while. But for me lately it has been often 🙁 Sorry!!

    But we all blow our fuses once in a while! I cant imagine how hard days are when Tim is not home and everything rests on you!! But we are all hear to vent with you when needed!!

  13. Can terrible 2s hit early? YES! My daughter is the answer to that question. Oy. I’m so sorry, hon. I don’t have a husband out of town, but he has been working a lot of overtime and it feels like he’s gone. And I’ve just been very short tempered and snappy lately. I think it’s because I’m not getting enough sleep, but I NEED my late nights afte the house is quiet! Hugs!

  15. My kids were all “early achievers” in that they hit the Terrible Twos around 18 months of age. Sigh.

    Keep your chin up – we all have bad days!!

    And man, I love footed pajamas. SO CUTE.

  16. Oh I hear ya. My hubby is here, but not really here. Know what I mean? He has been SUPER busy at work so he doesn’t come home until very late and then is MAJOR GRUMPY PANTS. Which makes me micromanage the boys so they don’t upset him further. Which makes the boys frustrated and sassy and them makes me yell. AHHHH!!!! Vicious cycle.
    I just keep telling myself that this too shall pass. Course it doesn’t help that Todd will be gone for a full week next week for deer hunting. BAH.

    Anyway. Vent away! Everyone needs that once in a while.

    And those matching jammies????? SO CUTE!

  17. oh i just hate when hubby goes out of town – just knowing someone’s not coming home to ‘tag’ makes the day seem even longer!!

    how bout i come over at eight so you can run out to target?

    i would totally do it friend 🙂

    ps – you are right though, total cuteness 🙂

  18. Vent all you need to, and if you need an outing for the boys, you know I’m not far, right?

  19. They ARE dang cute, that’s for sure.

    Days like that are tough, I’ve been there too and I really can’t stand when I hear myself yelling at them. It’s tough – no doubt about it.

  21. Oh, you are free to vent any time, Elaine! Sometimes I feel like that is all I do on my blog! LOL! Having your DH out of town so much is hard, I know…

    And, yes…Caden’s terrible two’s started at 18months…and just got worse! Sounds like little G may be a lot like Caden…Hang in there!

  22. Elaine, I have been there and done that, too many times to count. We all do it and we all feel bad about it after….

    Big hugs to you, I hope today was better!

    I have lots to vent about but the post I wrote would probably be offensive to some….

  23. I think something is in the air this week. My patience has been ZERO!! I’ve also become a yeller this week, which I hate.

    I need a break. Wanna come?

  24. Girl, I did too much yelling today and they were at school from 9-1. Not helping the cause- the 2.5 yr old is trying to drop his nap but he’s not ready (and neither am I), but he’s fighting me hard on it, and everything else. Lump that on top of the lack of sleep for months, for me, and I am grumpy with a capital G.

  26. Yep, I feel ya! *hugs* My hunny works OT 4 nights a week. I keep saying I didn’t sign up to be a single parent.

    Vent away!

  27. Your boys are adorable. I am the same way when I am tired and they are not listening. So tough when you are on your own.. Boy I feel for you. I love your blog. I am hopping to spend a little more time over here to get filled in…

    E

  28. oh Elaine, I am so sorry you have been feeling like this. I know my husband does not leave every oher week like yours but often does weekend work and works very late nights and it SUCKS! You are doing great and don’t be afraid to ever ask for help!

  29. Oh, honey – been there, done that. No, it does not feel good, but we are human beings. Most days around 4PM, I start anxiously awaiting DH’s phone call that he’s on his way home (which generally doesn’t come for at least an hour or two!). The point is, I hear you on having that extra body there to let you get something else done, or just get out for a few when you need to. Parenting is TOUGH work! You’re doing a great job, and fromt he looks of their pic, neither of them is any worse for the wear.

    The other thing to keep in mind is that when Daddy is gone, the whole dynamic changes. They know your weak spots and where to push, and they are missing him, which throws them off. MH has been such a handful since MIL went into the hospital. Even though when we’re not with her she’s with the next best thing (my parents) and having a ball, it’s still hard on her. And even though when we are with her it is ALL about her, it never seems to be enough.

    You are normal. Stop the guilt, eat a piece of chocolate, and vent away any time, friend!

  30. Ahhh, don’t you hate those days or weeks. My week started out with two crabby girls on Monday not wanting to do their homework. The oldest was the worst. She back talked and argued about what actually needed to be done for her homework and got herself grounded for the night. And thus begins the you love my brother and sister more than me drama. Ahh, but things have improved this week aside from this darn mysterious illness going through our house. The baby is running a fever with some loose stools and a very sore behind today. I’ve got a cough that I just can’t kick and the two older ones have been sniffing/coughing all week long too. Lets just say I’m very much looking forward to the four day break we get in two weeks thanks to Thanksgiving. And then once we get there I’ll be saying why was I looking forward to this? Now I have the two big ones home fighting with each other. A never ending circle.