In Control?

As I was driving back from picking up The B Man’s school supplies the other day, it struck me.

“Tim would never do this.”

And I don’t mean that in a negative or mean or bitter way.

I just mean he wouldn’t.

School supplies are my ‘job’.

Partly because I don’t work so, uh yeah. HELLO! Very much a part of my duties in the family.

And also, because he DOES work. A LOT. And part of his job?

Is not to have to worry about stuff like that.

At all.

We have a pretty ‘traditional’ set up here in our household (not to say that he does not help because he SO does) and that works for us.

I also realized that another PART of the reason that I do things like school supplies and MOST of the grocery shopping and clothes shopping and all that…

Is because I’m kind of a control freak.

And I don’t mean that in a mean or negative or bitter way.

I just AM.

There are MANY things that I like done my way.

I even like the dishwasher loaded in a certain fashion.

Each type of utensil together. Big plates at the front, little plates at back…

You get the picture.

And you better tri-fold the towels or there could be a minor breakdown, depending on the time of the month.

(okay, maybe it’s not that bad… but it’s probably a good idea to just do it ‘right’, k?)

The other day Tim started a load of laundry without using the sorter on wheels (which is MY way of doing it – gather all items from all hampers, sort them in the main sorter and THEN get started).

I thought I might blow a gasket.

How could he do it that way??

His point was that it didn’t matter how it was started, just that is WAS started!

Okay I get that but…

Anyway, this is just a little self discovery I’ve learned lately.

I’ve also learned that some things?

You just have to let go.

If Tim had offered to go buy the school supplies.

Well, I probably would have let him.

But he’d better have bought the right scissors and crayons and composition book or…

Let’s just say for now, it’s best that I did it…

So what about you?

Do you like to be in control or are you okay with letting others do things their way and letting go of stuff?

Just curious.

(which translates to please tell me I am not alone. I know I can’t control you, but still, help a sister out here…)

P.S. For all those of you who commented on my S.O.S. post, thank you. It took about a week but we did CIO and Baby K is now sleeping through the night with no bottle at “bleepity-bleep too early” a.m. YAY! And WAHOO!!!

P.P.S. I am MUCH more well rested…