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I’m Such a Good Mom

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Many times we find ourselves berating OURSELVES because of our supposed shortcomings in the motherhood department.  I know, it’s human nature to focus on the negative much of the time.  And I’m not saying I am perfect.  Not at all.

But the title of my post today is not full of sarcasm.  It is FULL of truth.

I am a good Mom.  And I’ve decided that I need to say that more (to myself) and to share it with everyone else too.  Because you know what? I am guessing you can relate.  And, I want more of us to say it! I want us to shout it from the rooftops and say, “I am a good Mom”.  Shoot, say “I’m a fabulous Mom” or “I’m the best Mom ever!” if you want.

I am trying to start a movement of positive and encouraging ideas about motherhood because I would rather focus on those than the not so good (and I know it’s there – trust me, I do – but why dwell on it so much?).

So, here you go, some reasons why I am a good Mom…

 

 

I got them a puppy*.  Enough said.

 

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(okay, fine, there’s more…)

 

I pack all of my kid’s lunches every day.  Full of (mostly) healthy food and bottles of fresh water to drink.  Sometimes I even make them look really cute like this!

 

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I let my kids help me bake.  That takes patience y’all.

 

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I let them play in the rain…

 

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I take my kids to fun play places and let them spend money on “games” that they get some tickets from and then in turn, get cheap plastic toys that make them happy for about 3.5 minutes.   And I let them play in ball pits.

 

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I give them ice cream.  But I also give them healthier food. 🙂

 

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I encourage hem to pursue the things they love to do.

 

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This past summer I let them watch the Lego Movie a few too many times.

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I play games with them.

 

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I take them out to breakfast.

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I plan and host their birthday parties.

 

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And I LOVE them.  I show them that in so many ways, even though I screw up sometimes too.

 

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*okay, yes, my husband had a lot to do with this decision too, but I was 50% of it and that’s a high percentage

 

So now, I encourage you to join me!   Tell me how YOU are a good mom (or parent) in the comments.  Or, write your own post and link it up in the comments.  Let’s spread the positive and tell everyone how good we really are at this mom gig.  Go!

You can tweet with me too – @elainea – #IAmAGoodMom  and/or share on Facebook and tag The Miss Elaine-ous Life!

 

p.s. the Old School Blogging linky is still open for a few more days if you want to join us for the summer wrap up!

Comments

  2. Yes! I agree. We ARE good moms. I’m a good mom because I knew that my little boy would lose it when I left him at his first day of kindergarten this morning, but I knew just what to do to make our goodbye as loving, quick, and painless as possible. And when I picked him up, I dropped everything, held him, and let him cry until he was ready to talk and smile again.
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    • I’m so glad you wrote a post! Thank you! And that we can continue this good feeling… 🙂

  4. Aww, Elaine. I just love you.
    This is such a grand idea. I love it. And I definitely need to do it more often. We (moms) are so hard on ourselves. And lately I haven’t been feeling like a good mom at all. I have been yelling so much, saying hurtful and stupid things, my temper at an all time high, my patience at an all time low.

    BUT…

    I am a good mom. And now that I am thinking about it I bet I could list many more times that I have succeeded at being a good mom then I originally thought. As a matter of fact, I think I’ll write a post too. Inspired by you.

    Maybe you should put up a linky. 😉

    Well done, Elaine. You started a positive thinking movement. And we (moms) can certainly use it!
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    • I hope you will write a post! You are a GREAT mom, Kat! I know this because I read your blog and I see the light in your kids’ eyes in all the photos you post and stories you tell.

      Of course, we all have moments that we wish we could take back (I have LOTS!) but we are not just moms, we are also humans.

      Looking forward to your post… 😉

  5. I love this! Start the movement, girl!

    And yes. Baking. Much patience. Claire and I were making banana muffins yesterday while the other 2 were distracted. It was great until she yelled “guys! We’re making banana muffins!” And everyone else came running in. 🙂
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  6. Great idea, Elaine! “I am a good mom” – I need to say this to myself every single day. And would it be terrible to say it out loud to the kids every once in a while, too? 🙂
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  7. I love this! We’re usually so hard on ourselves- it’s nice to take a moment and point out what we’re doing right!

    I’m a good mom b/c I play with my kids in the pool, tossing them and teaching them how to swim. I’m a good mom b/c I bought them the clothes they wanted for back to school, rather than what I thought they should have(nothing wrong with their choices, but I let them go for comfort when I wanted a little more style).
    Shell recently posted…We Need to Talk: Things They Can’t SayMy Profile

    • Thanks for sharing Shell! And yes, I have a hard time letting go on the clothing thing too sometimes… 😉

  9. I really love this. I might even schedule an “I am a good Mom” post in September so that I remember to REMIND myself to write one AND that I am one.

    You ARE a good Mom. I’m glad you’re celebrating that. xo
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  10. Elaine, you ARE a good mom! And I’m shocked by how uncomfortable I am saying the same. So thank you, for the challenge :). I am such a good mom… because we had a trampoline sleepout, because I let them invite 4 friends over for a major nerf gun battle this afternoon and because we’re having a yard sale on Sunday to make room for… MORE Nerf guns!
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    • The Nerf gun battle clenches it right there! 😉 And thank you, my friend, also for sharing this! 😀

  12. I really love this post. I think every single Mom I have ever met feels like a “bad” Mom every now and then.

    I am a good Mom. I love this!

    I know you are a good Mom because I see strawberries that are hearts and everyone knows that slouches do *not* make loveable lunches! 😀

    Plus, really, you had me at puppy. 😉

    Beautiful post! I think I’ll take a lead from you and try my best to blog about some of the reasons I am a good Mom, too.
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    • Thank you! And yeah, heart-shaped strawberries pretty much put me over the line, right? 😉 ha ha!

      I hope you’ll share why you are a good Mom too!

    • Sure Natalie, what do you like? Cheese sticks and strawberries, I hope! 😉

      Thank you, sweetie, you are a good mom too!!

    • Oh Yay, Clare, so happy you found your way here. 😀 And I’m SO glad you wrote your own post! On my way over to read it now…

  18. I’ve been wanting to read this post since I saw it pop up in my feed last week. Yes, you are a wonderful mother. I’d say that playing the Frozen soundtrack for my girls for the millionth time definitely puts me in the good mom category. Thanks for spreading the positivity!

  20. I love this – and now I will have to write my own post… you are so right – we forget to pat ourselves on the back!

    This is my first time visiting your blog – and I am hooked. I love your writing, your honesty – and the colors and layout of your blog are all very friendly and inviting! THANK YOU for sharing with such openness.
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  2. […] you think I’ve gone and grown a big head, let me preface this post by directing you to this post written by Elaine at The Miss Elaine-ous Life. Too often, we are quick to tell ourselves how we suck as a mother. Sure, there are days when we DO […]

  4. […] I’m Such a Good Mom. We all do it. We all downplay our achievements and accomplishments. We brush off compliments. We say that we aren’t good parents. That’s why I love this message behind Elaine’s post. She’s trying to start a movement of positive ideas about motherhood and to focus on the reasons why we are good moms (and dads). Read her post and then share how YOU are a good mom/dad. […]