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“I miss you… will you be my Valentine?”

Tim sent me these words on Wednesday of this week, via text, as he waited in an airport far away to board a plane and come home to me, to us.

I am not completely sure what about them made me begin to cry almost instantly after I read them.  Perhaps it was because I missed him so much too.  Or maybe the real heart of the matter was simply this…

After almost fourteen and half years of marriage and practically two decades together, those kinds of words are really all I need for Valentine’s Day.  Or any other day for that matter.  I do not need some grand gesture (not to say that they aren’t nice occasionally…) for proof that he loves me.  And maybe it was also the realization that I had in that moment, that not everyone gets this.  Not everyone has the opportunity to experience a love that takes over their heart and brings them to their knees.  Not everyone gets the chance to be loved by someone even though they know all their faults and “kinks” and missteps.

So many do not get the chance to snuggle in close to someone whose scent they would know anywhere and whose voices strikes a chord in their heart every time it is heard.  There are people who will never know what it is like to FEEL the electricity that pulses through you when you look into each other’s eyes with full understanding or when you laugh at the same joke in a movie and wink to each other.

Perhaps they will never have anyone’s face memorized as to know their every freckle and mole.  And they may never know what it is like to wish for just even one more day to be able to hold that love of their life for just one. more. day.

 

I feel truly blessed that I found someone who “gets” me and who I can share my life with so fully.  LOVE is not an easy thing.  It’s complicated and messy and really, almost stupidly hard sometimes.  We tend to get in our own way when it comes to matters of the heart, I think.   Is Tim my “soul mate”?  I don’t know.  I do feel like he is the person I was meant to be with but my true soul mate could be someone that I would never have the opportunity to meet, living half way around the world.   Who knows?

I think of that movie Serendipity.  Two people with a chance meeting and nothing to go on after they part ways except an old book with a phone number and a name written hastily inside.  In the story they are meant to be together because we love a happy ending (as a society) and because, well, they really kind of go out of their way to get back to each other, including breaking up their other relationships.  I think it’s sweet, I do.  But serendipitous? I am not so sure.

 

If either Tim or I had made a decision not to be at the place where we both were on the day we met our story could be much different.   Just ONE choice could have changed our entire adult existence.  That is pretty crazy to think about, now isn’t it?

But I am so thankful he was there and I was too.  And I thank God every day for the fact that we found each other and that our love is one that I cherish every day because I know not everyone has what we have.  And oh how I wish they could…

 

Me and Tim Valentine

 

 

 

 

Comments

    • 5 years, oh yes, Total newlyweds. We only had one baby by then so it was that kind of “newlywed” phase too – ha!

  3. Happy Love Day, you two.
    This brought a lump to my throat. In many ways, I feel the same way about my husband. We’ve been together 10 years, married 6 1/2, and he’s truly the only person in the world who gets me, who can make me laugh, who I know loves me with every fibre of his being.
    That is not a small thing.
    Funnily, I think about the day that started it all – the day he walked into the cafe on his own, the same time I was there, just hanging out, and I asked him to join my friend and I (we were already friends). What if he hadn’t decided to go there? What if I had just said hi, and let him move on?
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    • I know, it’s so crazy to think about… what if you hadn’t been there at that moment… ? That’s when I think about fate…

  6. Isn’t really all about finding that special someone who “gets” you. For me I know that is what makes me feel loved, that we both “get” each other. Happy Valentine’s Day to you and Tim.
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    • Thanks Julia, and yes it is a lot about that! Hope you had a great Valentine’s Day with your sweethearts too! 🙂

  7. It’s so crazy to think about that one choice made at the same time that brings two people together. I think about that ALL the time. Makes me believe in fate.

    Just looking at all the blessings that came from you two making that seemingly little choice. Changed your life. It IS mind-blowing! And I love it for you.

    Happy Love Day to you, Elaine! I am having so much fun reading all the love posts today <3
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    • Thanks, Colleen, hope you had a good Love Day too! And yes, it is most certainly mind-blowing… 🙂

  9. Oh this post is such a lovely Valentine to Tim! And I totally know what you mean about being with someone who “gets” you. Only with Cortney could I say the word “log” meaning something from a tree and we both crack up thinking about poop. 🙂
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  11. Oh this is so sweet, Elaine.
    I am lucky too in that my husband “gets me” and knows what I need to hear even when I don’t.
    Also, I have been thinking about the movie Serendipity all week – I think because of the Old School Blogging question about Say Anything. (I can’t think of John Cusack without thinking about Serendipity.)
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    • Don’t tell Tim I told you but he LOVES Serendipity. Although for him I’m pretty sure it’s more Kate Beckensale than it is John Cusak. ;-p